Hitting the BIG 3.0s


I finally reach a milestone, the BIG 3.0, a few months ago and never thought it will get here this soon. Bye to the 20s and hello 30s! Time to build.

I do hope that with ages, will come experiences, knowledges and wisdoms for personal growth.

Here are a few things I did over the years and a few things in my bucket list that I will love to do in the next 30 years. What’s your list like?As I reflected on the last 30 years of experiences in my life (the things and places I see, visited and have done), altho many has been achieved and experienced, I cannot wait for what the future hold in store for me to discover. I did not think that the BIG 30 will get here so soon. Cheer to 30s!

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Untold Stories of Hmoob Survivors

Domestic violence is defined as a “pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.  Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone” (US Department of Justice).

Untold Stories of Hmoob Survivors is a video created by ” Building Our Future: Community Campaign.” Their description is as follow:

Building Our Future is a global community campaign driven by a caring network of change agents who are uniting to change practices behaviors, and beliefs that contribute to gender-based violence so that we can build healthy and safe families that thrive from generation to generation.

We have witnessed the harmful realities of abusive international marriages and domestic violence on Hmong families across the United States and internationally, and believe that together we can develop and implement cultural change strategies that will build the kinds of families that enable all of our people to thrive.

The stake is high for all of us if we don’t end abusive practices within families. So, we are drawing the line on hurtful and oppressive practices that tear families apart. We are redrawing our destiny as children, women, men, LGBTQI persons, elders, parents, and leaders to build a future where families are free from abuse. We believe that, “we are the change we’ve been waiting for.”

As I watched the video, it is quite disturbed how women in my community are being treated. As reflected on the video that the young Hmong women who was involved in international marriage are sexually, mentally and physically abuse by their older husband. “This act is an act of demotic Violence” as mentioned by Bao Thao-Urabe.

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A Hmong Man Dying Wishes

Saw this post up on a Hmong page via facebook. It bring sadness to me because I haven’t experience much; just like this Hmong man wish he could had. Through my experience with my mom’s cancer 6 years ago, I cannot imagine what this Hmong man is going through on his death bed. Not sure if this story is true or not, but if it is… If there is a next life, may he fulfill all his wishes.

Anonymous wrote:


Dear beloved friends,


I found out I have stage 4 cancer and doctors told me I have 2-3 months to live. I never thought this day would come. I felt like my life has just started and it’s now coming to an end. I’m 34 years old. To be completely honest I am terrified of dying and every day it gets harder to say goodbye.  Continue reading