More Trees & Less Grasses

I have been having so many life struggles and challenges lately; whether it’s life itself, school, work, family or love life. The message below share by Tyler Perry really speak to me because I am on this constant self-improve changing journey to find inner peace.

I have been trying to improve this mind set of mine for a while; think that everyone is similar to me or like me and able to raise to my level of understanding and doing. At the end of the day, I gets disappointed because I expect more out of them which they do not have the abilities or capability to do so. Sigh* Definitely needs to work on this more.

The message below served as a reminder that some people doesn’t function the way we wants them to but to simply appreciated what they are and what they can do for us. If we needs those who can do what we can then we needs to be wise in our choices of decisions; whether it’s life itself, education goals, friends, family and relationship.

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she was explaining to me how disappointed she was in people and the things that they do and have done to her. She went on and on about how upset and heartbroken she was, and has been, about some of her family and friends. She talked about how they hurt her and how she wished they would change and be better people. She wanted them to be different than the people they were.

Halfway through this complaint-a-thon, I asked her to take a walk with me in the backyard. Now, you have to know this particular friend of mine. She hates the heat, and it was a hot day. I said, “come on” so she reluctantly came with me.

We got outside and it was steaming hot. I could see that she was uncomfortable. Nevertheless, we kept walking around my backyard. As she was still complaining about people, I asked her what she thought of my grass. Mind you, in order to appreciate the grass you had to stand in the direct sunlight. She said “Wow, I love your grass. It’s beautiful, but it’s hot right here. Let’s cool off under that oak tree over there.”

So, as she started to walk to the tree I said, “No no, let’s stay here in the grass and cool off.”

She turned to me quickly and said, “We can’t cool off on this grass.”

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Figure Out If You’re the One

Catching up on some of the old recap “Ask Steve” show. His info seem helpful from one of the show that a lady ask about how to spot a cheater and the advise below is Steve’s response. Rather spotting a cheater, figure out if you’re the one because if you’re the one, he will not cheat.

Figure out if you’re the one:

You’re the jackpot in the relationship. Quit proving yourself to the man, let him prove himself to you.

  1. If he does not response to your needs, or concerns, you are not the one. A man who wants you, listen to you because he loves you.
  2. If the man hurts your feelings, repeatedly, and he offers no fix for that, then you’re not the one. What man wants to hurt somebody he love, repeatedly and intentionally same way over and over again?
  3. If he is not willing to make any changes, then you’re not the one.

“A woman changes a man into the man he suppose to be…. if you’re not the one, leave, before he cheat. You are the ticket. You’re the whole deal!” ~ Steve Harvey

Source: full recap video

2014 Highglights

My highlights of 2014:

  • New job (a step closer to where I wants to be)Try
  • Lebanon foods (experience with nws at a local restaurant in Sacramento; kinda small but good experience, great foods)
  • Magic Marketing Workshop
  • Hmong Women Today Retreat at Harmony Ridge Lodge, Nevada City
  • Hmoob Thoj rooj mov khi tes
  • Fundraiser Event for ‘The Hmongstory 40 Exhibit’
  • Travel to San Diego (first time being there, and love it)
  • Amador Cellar; Behind the cellar door fest (Wine tasting pass in Amador county; tasty goods and great wine with my two little ladies; gotta do it again but next time go earlier because too many wineries to visit)
  • Pro Bono – Hmong Seniors Class at Hmong Women Heritage Association (teach edible fruits carving & arrangement; basic).
  • Sacramento Zoo (spend with two cute kiddos, their first time at a zoo)
  • Morocc foods (experience w/ BBF at a local restaurant; great experience and foods; definitely worth the experience; dancers entertainment is included if dine on Friday and Saturday)
  • Santa Cruz Boardwalk (visiting my brother w/ cousins and bring back memories of nws thiab kuv)
  • Save Mart GRAPE ESCAPE (great wine and foods; definitely worth the $$$; will do it again in 2015)
  • Yosemite National Park (First time there and love it)
  • Miss Hmong South CA Banquet
  • Lake Berryessa getaway
  • New Hmong name (my dad gave me a new Hmong name on my BDAY; his new trend for his kids)
  • Salinas, Monterey and Carmel getaway
  • Pro Bono (edible fruits arrangement set up for Steve Ly’s Luau Party for Elk Grove City Council election)
  • Spartan Race (Super)
  • Halloween (my half-siblings first Halloween trick-or-treat)
  • 2004 Honda Civic LX (bye to my old car of 11 yrs)
  • 2014 Honda Accord Coupe L-S (brought a new car; another bill adding to my list of expense)
  • Limousine & Wine Tasting (great experience, gotta do it again)
  • Volunteer (Assist coordinated SHNY pageant)
  • School (2 more classes to go until graduation…yayyy!)
I’m blessed for everything that come into my life and those on it’s way; the goods and the bads. 2014 been a journey of challenge; mentally, emotionally, and physically! I’m thankful for the experiences and I’m excited for 2015! What’s up next?

Wedding | She is there!

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Photo curiosity of Txhawb

She looked just like herself; just the way I remember her, her voice, her loud voice, her body figure, her curly black hairs, her sense of motherly concern, her face…etc. As I notice and observed my brother talk to her, I can hear her voice of concern echo on the most important day of my life. I can sense her present there and literally see her there. As one of my cousin patted my hairs and mentioned how important it is of the day, and how she was no where to be found to ask for her blessing. As I watched all the women (young and old) surround me drop tears in their eyes, I consciously thinking to myself and said “but she is here.” However no one seem to see her and woke up with tears in my eyes.

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Photo curiosity of MAGNIFIELD JOY Photography

 

On every woman’s wedding day, their mother play a significant role. A mother is there to dress her daughter up in Hmong clothes, advise her to be a good daughter in law and a good wife, bless her and send her off to live with her husband.

Sometime, I feel cheated that I will never have my mom there to do that for me. I wonder if it’s her way of letting me know; that she is and will be there.

 

I Am Great | Tyrese Gibson

POSITIVE SELF IMAGE!

Amazing parenting skill; building confidence starts at home.

 

“It doesn’t matter what they think of me. I know what I think of myself.

I am great. I am amazing. I am significant. I am smart. I am beautiful. I am special.

I can stand up with all the confidence in the world. I can look any man and woman in the face and said, I am ___ (insert your name here).

I am great. I am smart. No one can stop me but me. No one can stop me but me. The only person that can ever stand in my way is me. Me standing in my way is not an option.

I’m great! I’m amazing. I am smart. I am great. I am special.

No one in the world can stop my greatness. No one in the world can shake my confidence. It doesn’t matter what you said about me. It’s about the way I feel about myself. I love me. So it doesn’t matter if you don’t love me. I love me. Because I am great. I am ___ (insert your name here) .” ~ Tyrese Gibson

To see the video, click here.

YOU Are A Miracle

 

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Photo & Quote curiosity of simplereminders.com

Saw so many people giving birth to new born and post picture up on facebook (pop up on my news-feed) remind me of the time I went to the hospital to assist one of my sister in law in labor.

Witnessing life is such a miracle and the most amazing thing I have ever see. YOU are a miracle!

Regardless the up and down moments you live through every day, treasure those moments because they will be the highlight of your journey in life that makes you the person you are each and every day.

SMILE with no regrets but only lessons to learn! 

 

 

 

 

Happy 2 Years Anniversary!

Happy Anniversary!

You registered on WordPress.com 2 years ago!

Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging!

As I came on to wordpress today to blog about something else and I saw a notification that it is my 2 years anniversary on wordpress. I remember that I start blogging back in 2012 around march but did not know the exact date.

It has been two long years for me and fill with quiet a few memorable blog posts that help me recall the last two years. I start out the blog on collecting piece of arts that will fit into what is called “hmong chic” style for my future wedding…. he he he. Then it turn into recapping little things I find on the internet that is interesting to me. I blog about my past love experience, the lies I been told to by men and the pain that come after. I talked about my thoughts and emotions and the growth that I develop over the years as well as the little life lesson that I learned. I have fallen in love and went  through a break up. I know how a broken heart felt like and how emotionally drained a break can take on a person. I went through a stage of wondering “what if…” this or that happen, will I be in a better place. I do a lots of reflecting back to my past for personal growth, to understand what I did wrong so I can improve myself and my mistakes.

Today, I came back on here because I wants to write a reflection piece of my past. I have came to accepted my wrong doing so I can move forward. So look forward to that one up head.

There have been so many thing come and go; things change and so do people. It’s been two amazing years to reflected on and remember by. Happy 2 years Anniversary Unforgettable Adventures and cheer to two and more incredible years to come!