Quotes: Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Be kinder than necessary
because everyone you meet
is fighting some kind of battle”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Never blame any day in your life. Good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience, and the worst days give you a lesson.”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Don’t think too much. You’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Looking behind, I am lifted with gratitude. Looking forward, I am filled with vision. Looking upward, I am filled with strength. Looking within, I discover peace.”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Don’t try to use what you learn from Buddhism to be a Buddhist; use it to be a better whatever-you-already-are.”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Life has no remote. Get up and change it yourself.”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Life isn’t burger king. You can’t always have it your way.”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Sometimes when things are falling apart, they may actually be falling into place.”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon

“Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen”
― Sukhraj S. Dhillon


End 2014, Begin 2015

At the end of each year, I think of all the things that has happen during that year; the good, the bad and the ugly. And as I gather my thoughts for the coming new year, I reflect on what I have done and the things that I needs to improve on. Many good blessing has came into my life as well as many life lessons to learned. I always aim for the best but still had to accept the unforeseen that came my way. The unforeseen is what develop my character and growth. Without them, I will not be able to make small change every year to become a better person, a better woman, a better daughter, a better sister, a better friend, and one day a better girlfriend, a better wife and mother.

I am bless and thankful for every opportunities, every friendship and the continues support and love of my family (especially my siblings). I have to said, this year has been a roller coaster of physically, mentally and emotionally ride but at the same time, it has been quite the adventures.dbf8c54971e192a5e4633548faaea598

With 2015 around the corner, please:

“Make me strong in spirit,
Courageous in action,
Gentle of heart,

Let me act in wisdom,
Conquer my fear and doubt,
Discover my own hidden gifts,

Meet others with compassion,
Be a source of healing energies,
And face each day with hope and joy.”

Please give me the strength to be all that I can be.

So many goals to achieve, so many places to see and so many things to learn. I am excited for all the blessings that is yet to come!

Figure Out If You’re the One

Catching up on some of the old recap “Ask Steve” show. His info seem helpful from one of the show that a lady ask about how to spot a cheater and the advise below is Steve’s response. Rather spotting a cheater, figure out if you’re the one because if you’re the one, he will not cheat.

Figure out if you’re the one:

You’re the jackpot in the relationship. Quit proving yourself to the man, let him prove himself to you.

  1. If he does not response to your needs, or concerns, you are not the one. A man who wants you, listen to you because he loves you.
  2. If the man hurts your feelings, repeatedly, and he offers no fix for that, then you’re not the one. What man wants to hurt somebody he love, repeatedly and intentionally same way over and over again?
  3. If he is not willing to make any changes, then you’re not the one.

“A woman changes a man into the man he suppose to be…. if you’re not the one, leave, before he cheat. You are the ticket. You’re the whole deal!” ~ Steve Harvey

Source: full recap video

2014 Highglights

My highlights of 2014:

  • New job (a step closer to where I wants to be)Try
  • Lebanon foods (experience with nws at a local restaurant in Sacramento; kinda small but good experience, great foods)
  • Magic Marketing Workshop
  • Hmong Women Today Retreat at Harmony Ridge Lodge, Nevada City
  • Hmoob Thoj rooj mov khi tes
  • Fundraiser Event for ‘The Hmongstory 40 Exhibit’
  • Travel to San Diego (first time being there, and love it)
  • Amador Cellar; Behind the cellar door fest (Wine tasting pass in Amador county; tasty goods and great wine with my two little ladies; gotta do it again but next time go earlier because too many wineries to visit)
  • Pro Bono – Hmong Seniors Class at Hmong Women Heritage Association (teach edible fruits carving & arrangement; basic).
  • Sacramento Zoo (spend with two cute kiddos, their first time at a zoo)
  • Morocc foods (experience w/ BBF at a local restaurant; great experience and foods; definitely worth the experience; dancers entertainment is included if dine on Friday and Saturday)
  • Santa Cruz Boardwalk (visiting my brother w/ cousins and bring back memories of nws thiab kuv)
  • Save Mart GRAPE ESCAPE (great wine and foods; definitely worth the $$$; will do it again in 2015)
  • Yosemite National Park (First time there and love it)
  • Miss Hmong South CA Banquet
  • Lake Berryessa getaway
  • New Hmong name (my dad gave me a new Hmong name on my BDAY; his new trend for his kids)
  • Salinas, Monterey and Carmel getaway
  • Pro Bono (edible fruits arrangement set up for Steve Ly’s Luau Party for Elk Grove City Council election)
  • Spartan Race (Super)
  • Halloween (my half-siblings first Halloween trick-or-treat)
  • 2004 Honda Civic LX (bye to my old car of 11 yrs)
  • 2014 Honda Accord Coupe L-S (brought a new car; another bill adding to my list of expense)
  • Limousine & Wine Tasting (great experience, gotta do it again)
  • Volunteer (Assist coordinated SHNY pageant)
  • School (2 more classes to go until graduation…yayyy!)
I’m blessed for everything that come into my life and those on it’s way; the goods and the bads. 2014 been a journey of challenge; mentally, emotionally, and physically! I’m thankful for the experiences and I’m excited for 2015! What’s up next?

Untold Stories of Hmoob Survivors

Domestic violence is defined as a “pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.  Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone” (US Department of Justice).

Untold Stories of Hmoob Survivors is a video created by ” Building Our Future: Community Campaign.” Their description is as follow:

Building Our Future is a global community campaign driven by a caring network of change agents who are uniting to change practices behaviors, and beliefs that contribute to gender-based violence so that we can build healthy and safe families that thrive from generation to generation.

We have witnessed the harmful realities of abusive international marriages and domestic violence on Hmong families across the United States and internationally, and believe that together we can develop and implement cultural change strategies that will build the kinds of families that enable all of our people to thrive.

The stake is high for all of us if we don’t end abusive practices within families. So, we are drawing the line on hurtful and oppressive practices that tear families apart. We are redrawing our destiny as children, women, men, LGBTQI persons, elders, parents, and leaders to build a future where families are free from abuse. We believe that, “we are the change we’ve been waiting for.”

As I watched the video, it is quite disturbed how women in my community are being treated. As reflected on the video that the young Hmong women who was involved in international marriage are sexually, mentally and physically abuse by their older husband. “This act is an act of demotic Violence” as mentioned by Bao Thao-Urabe.

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THOUGHT: Txhov Siab, Txov Plawv

Thought of the moment:

Kuv muaj kev nyuaj siab, tu siab, chim siab, mob siab, kho siab los koj tsis pom tsis paub; tsis txawj hais ib lo lus zoo los txhawb kuv lub dag lub zog. Koj muaj kev nyuaj siab, tu siab, chim siab, mob siab, kho siab los kuv tsis pom tsis paub. Kuv los tsis txawj hais ib lo lus zoo los txhawb koj lub dag lub zoo. Tsis muaj ib tug uas yuav los paub txog yus txoj kev txom nyem ntawm yus kheej li. Tsis muaj ib tug uas yus tau khiav khwj khuav mus saib es piav kuv txoj kev ntxhov siab ntxhov plaws rau? Peb ua tib neeg nyob, ua cas es nyuaj ua luaj?

Lam zoo li tej ntwv cua es ya ib lub hav dhau mus rau ib lub rooj, tsis nco qab txog txoj kev ua neej, kev xav, kev ntshaw thiab txoj niag kev nrhiav noj nrhiav haus, tsis nco txoj niag kev txhov siab txhov plawv li lawm os…

Rejoice “Divorce”

Sometime we got so busy and tied with life that we negligence the important of each other. We forget how special our spouse, boyfriend or significant others are to us. We forget to be thankful of them for being in our life. We become unappreciated of them.

Reminisce the small details of your love for each other and live them daily without forgetting why you love and got married to the other person at the first place!

Beautiful video with a great message send out to it’s audience!