I love reading article at Elite Daily. And this is one of the many good article I read. Just reblogging as a reminder to myself…something to keep in mind when putting myself out there for a potential guy. 🙂
For years, we’ve talked about finding the right woman — someone we can rides the waves of life with, who will stand by our side for better or for worse.
As a man, committing to The One is among the most important decisions we make in life; some may even argue it is the most important.
The woman we decide to share our world with is the one who will mother our children, help us plan life, pick us up when we’re down and make us better men than we are right now.
But, what does the right woman look like in our eyes?
For years, women have been sharing what they want in men, but there’s this widely-held stereotype that all we want is the so-called “trophy wife.” I don’t agree with that notion.
You see, there’s so much that should go into deciding whom to share your life with — characteristics, in a sense, that stand the test of time.
So, what is it we men want in a woman?
Today, I am very hurt; emotionally hurt.
I’m all tears up inside, sad because of something which I have no control of. I never really knew or believed that a family’s perception of certain someone or something can be such a big impact on others until it hit me hard directly today.
I have known a guy for three years now. We kept in contact off and on for the past three years. Today, I finally have the courage to spill all my feeling out to him. It all started when he text and stated “I’m not good enuf. Don’t wanna marry me?” I reflected back to the first time when he called me and we talked; and those moments in between that lead us to where we are today. I pour my heart out, letting him know what feelings I always had for him. I have been waiting for the past three year for him to take initiative and it’s amazing how I still keep in touch with him to these days.
This guy is one of the best Hmong man I have ever encountered. From our communication, I would be happy to be married to him any day. When I first met him three years ago, I never knew I will develop such a strong feeling so deep for him. I didn’t know what I have got myself into. The very first time I find him to be worthy of getting to know was his charisma character and personality. That’s what draw me to him. The feeling has grown deeper as I get to know him more over time. He was once married before and that was the least of my concern. I really enjoy the moments I get to spend with him via text, phone and even when I met him in person. I have such a great emotion developing for this man after I have see him in person. I was longing for him but I have to pull myself back because it seem like he did not feel the same way towards me. The strong feeling I have for him actually scared me and didn’t want to lose myself to someone that don’t feel the same as I do nor lose myself to something that isn’t even there. I see myself as a woman with dignity and values myself. I was not gonna allow myself to make a fool out of me, be desperate for him. And if a man who do not reflect on what I have been trying to tell him or share with him which maybe he do not see or feel the same way towards me then it’s best for me to just let him go and cope with my emotion.
Found this to be quiet powerful to my heart & soul; An encouragement to move forward, to a better reflection of me. 🙂
“A MAN IS ONLY A REFLECTION OF ME AND WHERE I AM IN MY JOURNEY. Simply stated, when I was young, dumb, impressionable and looking for someone to fill this empty hole in my heart, I dated liars, cheaters and crazy folks. Although I knew I deserved better, my reflection that I saw in the mirror was so murky and unattractive emotionally and spiritually that I didn’t have the voice to demand better. I’m not saying that I will never encounter another unappealing prospect, however I’ve noticed as I’ve grown and became wiser, that even the qualities that I desire and receive in a have has changed. They’ve evolved and are now a better reflection of me.” — Tiffany Addai
Source: Simply Solo Spotlight: Top Five Lessons I’ve Learned from Dating
I have had my fair share of causal dating and is at the point where I am in search of someone who is ready to committed themselves in a relationship for the long haul. As my mind wonder about my past and what I must have done wrong in my search for love, I came across an article on yahoo called “Not Married Yet? Look for the New Mr.Right”. The author of the article makes some very good points why a woman is successful but at the same time, she was able to have a family with a supporting husband.
Listed below are the key points the author recommend for us young ladies to look for when we are in search for love in a man. If you want to read the whole article, click on the provided link.
The New Mr. Right:
– makes plans in advance.
– supports your career and ambitions.
– is proud of you when you achieve professionally.
– doesn’t expect to be waited on but does expect to help.
– loves children.
– enjoys doing things for you just as you do for him.
– knows who your friends are and makes an effort with them.
– spends time with male friends who treat women respectfully.
– doesn’t feel competitive with you. Your wins are his too.
Source: Not Married Yet? Look for Mr.Right
Two days ago, I received a text from a guy friend whom I have known for almost 6 years in this coming September.
Although it doesn’t matter to the world, I feel the needs to write it out and get it out of my system FOR GOOD! For those whoever come across anyone like this person, be cautious and beware because it can cause you a certain level of emotional damage where you don’t deserved to be put in.
Before, I get into details what the text is all about. Let me share how I met him and how this text has somewhat affect me in some way although I likes to denial that it doesn’t but it does!