More Trees & Less Grasses

I have been having so many life struggles and challenges lately; whether it’s life itself, school, work, family or love life. The message below share by Tyler Perry really speak to me because I am on this constant self-improve changing journey to find inner peace.

I have been trying to improve this mind set of mine for a while; think that everyone is similar to me or like me and able to raise to my level of understanding and doing. At the end of the day, I gets disappointed because I expect more out of them which they do not have the abilities or capability to do so. Sigh* Definitely needs to work on this more.

The message below served as a reminder that some people doesn’t function the way we wants them to but to simply appreciated what they are and what they can do for us. If we needs those who can do what we can then we needs to be wise in our choices of decisions; whether it’s life itself, education goals, friends, family and relationship.

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she was explaining to me how disappointed she was in people and the things that they do and have done to her. She went on and on about how upset and heartbroken she was, and has been, about some of her family and friends. She talked about how they hurt her and how she wished they would change and be better people. She wanted them to be different than the people they were.

Halfway through this complaint-a-thon, I asked her to take a walk with me in the backyard. Now, you have to know this particular friend of mine. She hates the heat, and it was a hot day. I said, “come on” so she reluctantly came with me.

We got outside and it was steaming hot. I could see that she was uncomfortable. Nevertheless, we kept walking around my backyard. As she was still complaining about people, I asked her what she thought of my grass. Mind you, in order to appreciate the grass you had to stand in the direct sunlight. She said “Wow, I love your grass. It’s beautiful, but it’s hot right here. Let’s cool off under that oak tree over there.”

So, as she started to walk to the tree I said, “No no, let’s stay here in the grass and cool off.”

She turned to me quickly and said, “We can’t cool off on this grass.”

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2014 Highglights

My highlights of 2014:

  • New job (a step closer to where I wants to be)Try
  • Lebanon foods (experience with nws at a local restaurant in Sacramento; kinda small but good experience, great foods)
  • Magic Marketing Workshop
  • Hmong Women Today Retreat at Harmony Ridge Lodge, Nevada City
  • Hmoob Thoj rooj mov khi tes
  • Fundraiser Event for ‘The Hmongstory 40 Exhibit’
  • Travel to San Diego (first time being there, and love it)
  • Amador Cellar; Behind the cellar door fest (Wine tasting pass in Amador county; tasty goods and great wine with my two little ladies; gotta do it again but next time go earlier because too many wineries to visit)
  • Pro Bono – Hmong Seniors Class at Hmong Women Heritage Association (teach edible fruits carving & arrangement; basic).
  • Sacramento Zoo (spend with two cute kiddos, their first time at a zoo)
  • Morocc foods (experience w/ BBF at a local restaurant; great experience and foods; definitely worth the experience; dancers entertainment is included if dine on Friday and Saturday)
  • Santa Cruz Boardwalk (visiting my brother w/ cousins and bring back memories of nws thiab kuv)
  • Save Mart GRAPE ESCAPE (great wine and foods; definitely worth the $$$; will do it again in 2015)
  • Yosemite National Park (First time there and love it)
  • Miss Hmong South CA Banquet
  • Lake Berryessa getaway
  • New Hmong name (my dad gave me a new Hmong name on my BDAY; his new trend for his kids)
  • Salinas, Monterey and Carmel getaway
  • Pro Bono (edible fruits arrangement set up for Steve Ly’s Luau Party for Elk Grove City Council election)
  • Spartan Race (Super)
  • Halloween (my half-siblings first Halloween trick-or-treat)
  • 2004 Honda Civic LX (bye to my old car of 11 yrs)
  • 2014 Honda Accord Coupe L-S (brought a new car; another bill adding to my list of expense)
  • Limousine & Wine Tasting (great experience, gotta do it again)
  • Volunteer (Assist coordinated SHNY pageant)
  • School (2 more classes to go until graduation…yayyy!)
I’m blessed for everything that come into my life and those on it’s way; the goods and the bads. 2014 been a journey of challenge; mentally, emotionally, and physically! I’m thankful for the experiences and I’m excited for 2015! What’s up next?

Dear Sisters

Dear sisters,

I am so blessed to have you two in my life. I cannot express enough, how much you both has done for me physically, mentally and emotionally. I am known for being a spoil brat and free loader at time … and that is because I know I am well love by you two and the rest of my siblings. UR LOVE NEVER FAILS, NEVER GIVES UP, NEVER RUN OUT ON ME. I really appreciated all the pep talks we have—those will be forever good memories. Thank you for believing in me when I am at my lowest and needed that small extra push to get my energy back up running again. Muah* I ♥ U!

Love,

Your spoil brat and free loader sister 🙂

A MAN

Found this to be quiet powerful to my heart & soul; An encouragement to move forward, to a better reflection of me. 🙂

“A MAN IS ONLY A REFLECTION OF ME AND WHERE I AM IN MY JOURNEY. Simply stated, when I was young, dumb, impressionable and looking for someone to fill this empty hole in my heart, I dated liars, cheaters and crazy folks. Although I knew I deserved better, my reflection that I saw in the mirror was so murky and unattractive emotionally and spiritually that I didn’t have the voice to demand better. I’m not saying that I will never encounter another unappealing prospect, however I’ve noticed as I’ve grown and became wiser, that even the qualities that I desire and receive in a have has changed. They’ve evolved and are now a better reflection of me.” — Tiffany Addai

Source: Simply Solo Spotlight: Top Five Lessons I’ve Learned from Dating