Hitting the BIG 3.0s

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I finally reach a milestone, the BIG 3.0, a few months ago and never thought it will get here this soon. Bye to the 20s and hello 30s! Time to build.

I do hope that with ages, will come experiences, knowledges and wisdoms for personal growth.

Here are a few things I did over the years and a few things in my bucket list that I will love to do in the next 30 years. What’s your list like?As I reflected on the last 30 years of experiences in my life (the things and places I see, visited and have done), altho many has been achieved and experienced, I cannot wait for what the future hold in store for me to discover. I did not think that the BIG 30 will get here so soon. Cheer to 30s!

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That Moment …

lessons-in-lifeThat moment when you look at old photos of you and your ex and … instead of you feeling hurts and lots of pain, it makes you smiles.

That moment when you realize that you no longer hurts by watever happen in the past.

That moment, you dwell in the past for the good of memories and just cherish it rather then let the pain come back and hurts you all over again.

That moment when you recently see him at the gym and you wish him well and that he is doing well.

That moment when you see him again and he is like a complete stranger all over again.

That moment when you wants nothing for him but the best only.

That moment when you are thankful for the experience you have with him and because of whatever happen, it taught you to know yourself better and become the person you are today.

That moment when you know that your heart and you have move on.

Mesmerize About The Past

2013 - lunchWe were told not to dwell in the past but sometime you cannot help yourself.

Lately I have been dwell in the past, my past. Since facebook has the feature of “Memories look back on today” from years ago. I was able to see what I did a few years ago.

“OH those happy moments!!!”

They seem so real but at the same time, just a memories. Where has it gone? And what happen?

Today about 2 yrs ago, as stated in my status post, “the handsome one and I went to lunch before we head out to wine tasting in Old Sugar Mill in Clarksburg.”

It is bittersweet memory that I will forever cherish. I don’t know how he and I came to be the way we are. It’s been 9 months since we went our own way. I believed he has move on himself as I am allowing myself to move on too. Like they said “TIME” will heal the wound and give time, someone will come along and put all the broken piece together.

I am thankful for the experiences; to love, the memories, the many places we had travel and visit, and the lessons we have share with one another. I think that without it, I will not become the person I am.

2013 - wineAs I mesmerize about my past, a part of me is sadden that two wonderful and amazing persons cannot work out their differences. And a part of me wish him well and that he will be love in the way that I was not able to do so to fulfil his happiness.

Like the saying goes… “If we are meant to be, faith will lead us back to be in each other’s arm again” in the future.

More Trees & Less Grasses

I have been having so many life struggles and challenges lately; whether it’s life itself, school, work, family or love life. The message below share by Tyler Perry really speak to me because I am on this constant self-improve changing journey to find inner peace.

I have been trying to improve this mind set of mine for a while; think that everyone is similar to me or like me and able to raise to my level of understanding and doing. At the end of the day, I gets disappointed because I expect more out of them which they do not have the abilities or capability to do so. Sigh* Definitely needs to work on this more.

The message below served as a reminder that some people doesn’t function the way we wants them to but to simply appreciated what they are and what they can do for us. If we needs those who can do what we can then we needs to be wise in our choices of decisions; whether it’s life itself, education goals, friends, family and relationship.

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she was explaining to me how disappointed she was in people and the things that they do and have done to her. She went on and on about how upset and heartbroken she was, and has been, about some of her family and friends. She talked about how they hurt her and how she wished they would change and be better people. She wanted them to be different than the people they were.

Halfway through this complaint-a-thon, I asked her to take a walk with me in the backyard. Now, you have to know this particular friend of mine. She hates the heat, and it was a hot day. I said, “come on” so she reluctantly came with me.

We got outside and it was steaming hot. I could see that she was uncomfortable. Nevertheless, we kept walking around my backyard. As she was still complaining about people, I asked her what she thought of my grass. Mind you, in order to appreciate the grass you had to stand in the direct sunlight. She said “Wow, I love your grass. It’s beautiful, but it’s hot right here. Let’s cool off under that oak tree over there.”

So, as she started to walk to the tree I said, “No no, let’s stay here in the grass and cool off.”

She turned to me quickly and said, “We can’t cool off on this grass.”

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End 2014, Begin 2015

At the end of each year, I think of all the things that has happen during that year; the good, the bad and the ugly. And as I gather my thoughts for the coming new year, I reflect on what I have done and the things that I needs to improve on. Many good blessing has came into my life as well as many life lessons to learned. I always aim for the best but still had to accept the unforeseen that came my way. The unforeseen is what develop my character and growth. Without them, I will not be able to make small change every year to become a better person, a better woman, a better daughter, a better sister, a better friend, and one day a better girlfriend, a better wife and mother.

I am bless and thankful for every opportunities, every friendship and the continues support and love of my family (especially my siblings). I have to said, this year has been a roller coaster of physically, mentally and emotionally ride but at the same time, it has been quite the adventures.dbf8c54971e192a5e4633548faaea598

With 2015 around the corner, please:

“Make me strong in spirit,
Courageous in action,
Gentle of heart,

Let me act in wisdom,
Conquer my fear and doubt,
Discover my own hidden gifts,

Meet others with compassion,
Be a source of healing energies,
And face each day with hope and joy.”

Please give me the strength to be all that I can be.

So many goals to achieve, so many places to see and so many things to learn. I am excited for all the blessings that is yet to come!

2014 Highglights

My highlights of 2014:

  • New job (a step closer to where I wants to be)Try
  • Lebanon foods (experience with nws at a local restaurant in Sacramento; kinda small but good experience, great foods)
  • Magic Marketing Workshop
  • Hmong Women Today Retreat at Harmony Ridge Lodge, Nevada City
  • Hmoob Thoj rooj mov khi tes
  • Fundraiser Event for ‘The Hmongstory 40 Exhibit’
  • Travel to San Diego (first time being there, and love it)
  • Amador Cellar; Behind the cellar door fest (Wine tasting pass in Amador county; tasty goods and great wine with my two little ladies; gotta do it again but next time go earlier because too many wineries to visit)
  • Pro Bono – Hmong Seniors Class at Hmong Women Heritage Association (teach edible fruits carving & arrangement; basic).
  • Sacramento Zoo (spend with two cute kiddos, their first time at a zoo)
  • Morocc foods (experience w/ BBF at a local restaurant; great experience and foods; definitely worth the experience; dancers entertainment is included if dine on Friday and Saturday)
  • Santa Cruz Boardwalk (visiting my brother w/ cousins and bring back memories of nws thiab kuv)
  • Save Mart GRAPE ESCAPE (great wine and foods; definitely worth the $$$; will do it again in 2015)
  • Yosemite National Park (First time there and love it)
  • Miss Hmong South CA Banquet
  • Lake Berryessa getaway
  • New Hmong name (my dad gave me a new Hmong name on my BDAY; his new trend for his kids)
  • Salinas, Monterey and Carmel getaway
  • Pro Bono (edible fruits arrangement set up for Steve Ly’s Luau Party for Elk Grove City Council election)
  • Spartan Race (Super)
  • Halloween (my half-siblings first Halloween trick-or-treat)
  • 2004 Honda Civic LX (bye to my old car of 11 yrs)
  • 2014 Honda Accord Coupe L-S (brought a new car; another bill adding to my list of expense)
  • Limousine & Wine Tasting (great experience, gotta do it again)
  • Volunteer (Assist coordinated SHNY pageant)
  • School (2 more classes to go until graduation…yayyy!)
I’m blessed for everything that come into my life and those on it’s way; the goods and the bads. 2014 been a journey of challenge; mentally, emotionally, and physically! I’m thankful for the experiences and I’m excited for 2015! What’s up next?

Happy 2 Years Anniversary!

Happy Anniversary!

You registered on WordPress.com 2 years ago!

Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging!

As I came on to wordpress today to blog about something else and I saw a notification that it is my 2 years anniversary on wordpress. I remember that I start blogging back in 2012 around march but did not know the exact date.

It has been two long years for me and fill with quiet a few memorable blog posts that help me recall the last two years. I start out the blog on collecting piece of arts that will fit into what is called “hmong chic” style for my future wedding…. he he he. Then it turn into recapping little things I find on the internet that is interesting to me. I blog about my past love experience, the lies I been told to by men and the pain that come after. I talked about my thoughts and emotions and the growth that I develop over the years as well as the little life lesson that I learned. I have fallen in love and went  through a break up. I know how a broken heart felt like and how emotionally drained a break can take on a person. I went through a stage of wondering “what if…” this or that happen, will I be in a better place. I do a lots of reflecting back to my past for personal growth, to understand what I did wrong so I can improve myself and my mistakes.

Today, I came back on here because I wants to write a reflection piece of my past. I have came to accepted my wrong doing so I can move forward. So look forward to that one up head.

There have been so many thing come and go; things change and so do people. It’s been two amazing years to reflected on and remember by. Happy 2 years Anniversary Unforgettable Adventures and cheer to two and more incredible years to come!