That Moment …

lessons-in-lifeThat moment when you look at old photos of you and your ex and … instead of you feeling hurts and lots of pain, it makes you smiles.

That moment when you realize that you no longer hurts by watever happen in the past.

That moment, you dwell in the past for the good of memories and just cherish it rather then let the pain come back and hurts you all over again.

That moment when you recently see him at the gym and you wish him well and that he is doing well.

That moment when you see him again and he is like a complete stranger all over again.

That moment when you wants nothing for him but the best only.

That moment when you are thankful for the experience you have with him and because of whatever happen, it taught you to know yourself better and become the person you are today.

That moment when you know that your heart and you have move on.

More Trees & Less Grasses

I have been having so many life struggles and challenges lately; whether it’s life itself, school, work, family or love life. The message below share by Tyler Perry really speak to me because I am on this constant self-improve changing journey to find inner peace.

I have been trying to improve this mind set of mine for a while; think that everyone is similar to me or like me and able to raise to my level of understanding and doing. At the end of the day, I gets disappointed because I expect more out of them which they do not have the abilities or capability to do so. Sigh* Definitely needs to work on this more.

The message below served as a reminder that some people doesn’t function the way we wants them to but to simply appreciated what they are and what they can do for us. If we needs those who can do what we can then we needs to be wise in our choices of decisions; whether it’s life itself, education goals, friends, family and relationship.

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she was explaining to me how disappointed she was in people and the things that they do and have done to her. She went on and on about how upset and heartbroken she was, and has been, about some of her family and friends. She talked about how they hurt her and how she wished they would change and be better people. She wanted them to be different than the people they were.

Halfway through this complaint-a-thon, I asked her to take a walk with me in the backyard. Now, you have to know this particular friend of mine. She hates the heat, and it was a hot day. I said, “come on” so she reluctantly came with me.

We got outside and it was steaming hot. I could see that she was uncomfortable. Nevertheless, we kept walking around my backyard. As she was still complaining about people, I asked her what she thought of my grass. Mind you, in order to appreciate the grass you had to stand in the direct sunlight. She said “Wow, I love your grass. It’s beautiful, but it’s hot right here. Let’s cool off under that oak tree over there.”

So, as she started to walk to the tree I said, “No no, let’s stay here in the grass and cool off.”

She turned to me quickly and said, “We can’t cool off on this grass.”

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End 2014, Begin 2015

At the end of each year, I think of all the things that has happen during that year; the good, the bad and the ugly. And as I gather my thoughts for the coming new year, I reflect on what I have done and the things that I needs to improve on. Many good blessing has came into my life as well as many life lessons to learned. I always aim for the best but still had to accept the unforeseen that came my way. The unforeseen is what develop my character and growth. Without them, I will not be able to make small change every year to become a better person, a better woman, a better daughter, a better sister, a better friend, and one day a better girlfriend, a better wife and mother.

I am bless and thankful for every opportunities, every friendship and the continues support and love of my family (especially my siblings). I have to said, this year has been a roller coaster of physically, mentally and emotionally ride but at the same time, it has been quite the adventures.dbf8c54971e192a5e4633548faaea598

With 2015 around the corner, please:

“Make me strong in spirit,
Courageous in action,
Gentle of heart,

Let me act in wisdom,
Conquer my fear and doubt,
Discover my own hidden gifts,

Meet others with compassion,
Be a source of healing energies,
And face each day with hope and joy.”

Please give me the strength to be all that I can be.

So many goals to achieve, so many places to see and so many things to learn. I am excited for all the blessings that is yet to come!

2014 Highglights

My highlights of 2014:

  • New job (a step closer to where I wants to be)Try
  • Lebanon foods (experience with nws at a local restaurant in Sacramento; kinda small but good experience, great foods)
  • Magic Marketing Workshop
  • Hmong Women Today Retreat at Harmony Ridge Lodge, Nevada City
  • Hmoob Thoj rooj mov khi tes
  • Fundraiser Event for ‘The Hmongstory 40 Exhibit’
  • Travel to San Diego (first time being there, and love it)
  • Amador Cellar; Behind the cellar door fest (Wine tasting pass in Amador county; tasty goods and great wine with my two little ladies; gotta do it again but next time go earlier because too many wineries to visit)
  • Pro Bono – Hmong Seniors Class at Hmong Women Heritage Association (teach edible fruits carving & arrangement; basic).
  • Sacramento Zoo (spend with two cute kiddos, their first time at a zoo)
  • Morocc foods (experience w/ BBF at a local restaurant; great experience and foods; definitely worth the experience; dancers entertainment is included if dine on Friday and Saturday)
  • Santa Cruz Boardwalk (visiting my brother w/ cousins and bring back memories of nws thiab kuv)
  • Save Mart GRAPE ESCAPE (great wine and foods; definitely worth the $$$; will do it again in 2015)
  • Yosemite National Park (First time there and love it)
  • Miss Hmong South CA Banquet
  • Lake Berryessa getaway
  • New Hmong name (my dad gave me a new Hmong name on my BDAY; his new trend for his kids)
  • Salinas, Monterey and Carmel getaway
  • Pro Bono (edible fruits arrangement set up for Steve Ly’s Luau Party for Elk Grove City Council election)
  • Spartan Race (Super)
  • Halloween (my half-siblings first Halloween trick-or-treat)
  • 2004 Honda Civic LX (bye to my old car of 11 yrs)
  • 2014 Honda Accord Coupe L-S (brought a new car; another bill adding to my list of expense)
  • Limousine & Wine Tasting (great experience, gotta do it again)
  • Volunteer (Assist coordinated SHNY pageant)
  • School (2 more classes to go until graduation…yayyy!)
I’m blessed for everything that come into my life and those on it’s way; the goods and the bads. 2014 been a journey of challenge; mentally, emotionally, and physically! I’m thankful for the experiences and I’m excited for 2015! What’s up next?

THOUGHT: Txhov Siab, Txov Plawv

Thought of the moment:

Kuv muaj kev nyuaj siab, tu siab, chim siab, mob siab, kho siab los koj tsis pom tsis paub; tsis txawj hais ib lo lus zoo los txhawb kuv lub dag lub zog. Koj muaj kev nyuaj siab, tu siab, chim siab, mob siab, kho siab los kuv tsis pom tsis paub. Kuv los tsis txawj hais ib lo lus zoo los txhawb koj lub dag lub zoo. Tsis muaj ib tug uas yuav los paub txog yus txoj kev txom nyem ntawm yus kheej li. Tsis muaj ib tug uas yus tau khiav khwj khuav mus saib es piav kuv txoj kev ntxhov siab ntxhov plaws rau? Peb ua tib neeg nyob, ua cas es nyuaj ua luaj?

Lam zoo li tej ntwv cua es ya ib lub hav dhau mus rau ib lub rooj, tsis nco qab txog txoj kev ua neej, kev xav, kev ntshaw thiab txoj niag kev nrhiav noj nrhiav haus, tsis nco txoj niag kev txhov siab txhov plawv li lawm os…

Rejoice “Divorce”

Sometime we got so busy and tied with life that we negligence the important of each other. We forget how special our spouse, boyfriend or significant others are to us. We forget to be thankful of them for being in our life. We become unappreciated of them.

Reminisce the small details of your love for each other and live them daily without forgetting why you love and got married to the other person at the first place!

Beautiful video with a great message send out to it’s audience!

Forgive & Forget

“How do you forgive n forget so you can be at peace?”

I asked this question on my facebook status and quite a few people response below with their thoughts. So really, how do you forgive and forget? I always have a difficulty of forgetting what people have done to me in the past. So I put this question out there to get ideas how I can better myself from the past. Like many said, to be at peace we must be able to do both. I want to be able to do both so I can overcome my pains, my thought and be at ease with my past, present and future. Comment below with your strategy, I love to hear from you.

Pang~ I think I can forgive, but not forget. But yet, it depends on the circumstance.

Wayne ~ It’s a lot easier when you know you’ve been forgiven of something much greater?

Pheng ~ You don’t just continue living and learning and on…

Elodie ~ Forgiving is easier than forgetting. Easiest way is to let go of it and move on. Leave it all behind

Chan ~ If you dont let go and forgive, you are the one that is dealing with the frustration, the other person goes on not even know how you are feeling so let it go and focus on the future.

Huab ~ Depending on the situation. There are some things you can’t forgive and forget. You learn to lock the pain away and learn a lesson. For the things you can forgive, do so and live free.

Mai ~ Time is all you need

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