Hitting the BIG 3.0s


I finally reach a milestone, the BIG 3.0, a few months ago and never thought it will get here this soon. Bye to the 20s and hello 30s! Time to build.

I do hope that with ages, will come experiences, knowledges and wisdoms for personal growth.

Here are a few things I did over the years and a few things in my bucket list that I will love to do in the next 30 years. What’s your list like?As I reflected on the last 30 years of experiences in my life (the things and places I see, visited and have done), altho many has been achieved and experienced, I cannot wait for what the future hold in store for me to discover. I did not think that the BIG 30 will get here so soon. Cheer to 30s!

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End 2014, Begin 2015

At the end of each year, I think of all the things that has happen during that year; the good, the bad and the ugly. And as I gather my thoughts for the coming new year, I reflect on what I have done and the things that I needs to improve on. Many good blessing has came into my life as well as many life lessons to learned. I always aim for the best but still had to accept the unforeseen that came my way. The unforeseen is what develop my character and growth. Without them, I will not be able to make small change every year to become a better person, a better woman, a better daughter, a better sister, a better friend, and one day a better girlfriend, a better wife and mother.

I am bless and thankful for every opportunities, every friendship and the continues support and love of my family (especially my siblings). I have to said, this year has been a roller coaster of physically, mentally and emotionally ride but at the same time, it has been quite the adventures.dbf8c54971e192a5e4633548faaea598

With 2015 around the corner, please:

“Make me strong in spirit,
Courageous in action,
Gentle of heart,

Let me act in wisdom,
Conquer my fear and doubt,
Discover my own hidden gifts,

Meet others with compassion,
Be a source of healing energies,
And face each day with hope and joy.”

Please give me the strength to be all that I can be.

So many goals to achieve, so many places to see and so many things to learn. I am excited for all the blessings that is yet to come!

Figure Out If You’re the One

Catching up on some of the old recap “Ask Steve” show. His info seem helpful from one of the show that a lady ask about how to spot a cheater and the advise below is Steve’s response. Rather spotting a cheater, figure out if you’re the one because if you’re the one, he will not cheat.

Figure out if you’re the one:

You’re the jackpot in the relationship. Quit proving yourself to the man, let him prove himself to you.

  1. If he does not response to your needs, or concerns, you are not the one. A man who wants you, listen to you because he loves you.
  2. If the man hurts your feelings, repeatedly, and he offers no fix for that, then you’re not the one. What man wants to hurt somebody he love, repeatedly and intentionally same way over and over again?
  3. If he is not willing to make any changes, then you’re not the one.

“A woman changes a man into the man he suppose to be…. if you’re not the one, leave, before he cheat. You are the ticket. You’re the whole deal!” ~ Steve Harvey

Source: full recap video

THOUGHT: Txhov Siab, Txov Plawv

Thought of the moment:

Kuv muaj kev nyuaj siab, tu siab, chim siab, mob siab, kho siab los koj tsis pom tsis paub; tsis txawj hais ib lo lus zoo los txhawb kuv lub dag lub zog. Koj muaj kev nyuaj siab, tu siab, chim siab, mob siab, kho siab los kuv tsis pom tsis paub. Kuv los tsis txawj hais ib lo lus zoo los txhawb koj lub dag lub zoo. Tsis muaj ib tug uas yuav los paub txog yus txoj kev txom nyem ntawm yus kheej li. Tsis muaj ib tug uas yus tau khiav khwj khuav mus saib es piav kuv txoj kev ntxhov siab ntxhov plaws rau? Peb ua tib neeg nyob, ua cas es nyuaj ua luaj?

Lam zoo li tej ntwv cua es ya ib lub hav dhau mus rau ib lub rooj, tsis nco qab txog txoj kev ua neej, kev xav, kev ntshaw thiab txoj niag kev nrhiav noj nrhiav haus, tsis nco txoj niag kev txhov siab txhov plawv li lawm os…

Forgive & Forget

“How do you forgive n forget so you can be at peace?”

I asked this question on my facebook status and quite a few people response below with their thoughts. So really, how do you forgive and forget? I always have a difficulty of forgetting what people have done to me in the past. So I put this question out there to get ideas how I can better myself from the past. Like many said, to be at peace we must be able to do both. I want to be able to do both so I can overcome my pains, my thought and be at ease with my past, present and future. Comment below with your strategy, I love to hear from you.

Pang~ I think I can forgive, but not forget. But yet, it depends on the circumstance.

Wayne ~ It’s a lot easier when you know you’ve been forgiven of something much greater?

Pheng ~ You don’t just continue living and learning and on…

Elodie ~ Forgiving is easier than forgetting. Easiest way is to let go of it and move on. Leave it all behind

Chan ~ If you dont let go and forgive, you are the one that is dealing with the frustration, the other person goes on not even know how you are feeling so let it go and focus on the future.

Huab ~ Depending on the situation. There are some things you can’t forgive and forget. You learn to lock the pain away and learn a lesson. For the things you can forgive, do so and live free.

Mai ~ Time is all you need

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True Love

Frozen_castposterJust finish watching “Frozen” Disney movie. Although it is a kid movie, it is quit enjoyable. It show the strength of Anna and Elsa. I think that it’s a great movie to influence young girls to think positive and never let anything stop them from achieving what their heart desire.

The most fascinating part to me is at the end of the movie where Anna was unfrozen due to true love; an act of true love. Anna thought that a kiss of true love will set her unfrozen and rush herself back to the castle to see Hans. Come to realize that Hans was a jerk and then rush herself to Kristoff for a kiss of true love. Instead she act out of her true love for Elsa; sacrifice herself to save Elsa from Hans.

In society standard or the way we always see — is — true love is always been done by an act of a man to a woman. In this Disney movie, it show that true love can happen from one to other regardless the gender. Anna’s act of true love for her older sister Elisa set her free from being frozen. It is a powerful message send by Frozen Disney movie. I hope that parents were able to grasp that and share with their little kids.

To watch full version of “Frozen”  free online, click here.

23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing

One of the many things I enjoy blogging about is keeping interesting stuff as a blog for self-reminder, later down the road to reflect on or to read it again.

Below you will find me quoted an article from “Huff Post Women;” talking about the important stuffs we women needs to stop doing. I find the article to be refreshing and a self-care reminder to myself. I exceed some of the listed pointers but still working on some; such as learning to say No and stop saying yes to everything or every one; especially knowing that I have very limited time to do other stuff for other people or with them.

It’s good for the soul…Happy Reading!

23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing

It is conventional wisdom that we’re our own worst enemies and despite the cliche, the idea rings true. We often drive ourselves insane striving for perfection in our experiences, relationships and selves, and honestly it just becomes exhausting. So here at HuffPost Women we’re issuing a challenge to ourselves — and other women — to stop doing these 23 things. (Of course it’s all easier said than done, but to employ another cliche, if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.)

1. Apologizing all the time. Research has shown that women actually do say “sorry” more often than men. We’re all for taking responsibility when you make a mistake — but constantly apologizing for having your waiter split the check or asking a date to hang out on a different night or telling a friend about your problems, does more harm than good. There’s no need to qualify everything you do. Own your preferences and decisions.

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